Authentic – sensitive – being!
Do you feel a lot and is it (still) weighing you down? Are you easily overstimulated?
Have you been told or are you being told that you are “too” emotional, “too” sensitive, “too” whatever?
Do you notice subtleties and details that others miss? Are you quick to pick up on other people’s emotions?
Do you find it difficult to set and maintain boundaries (even towards yourself)?
And … Do you sometimes doubt your own perception (perhaps because others tell you, “Nonsense, that is impossible to perceive.”)?
As a highly sensitive Person (HSP) you have a range of unique skills and challenges. Elaine Aron, who has been researching high sensitivity since 1996, describes five main personality traits of highly sensitive people:
For HSPs, being easily overwhelmed by stimuli can mean, for example, only being able to tolerate crowds or concerts for a short time or no longer being able to distinguish the voices of people in loud cafés from the background noise, as everything blends into a jumble of sounds. Or being quickly overwhelmed when many demands are made on them from different sides at the same time. Or that the noises and impressions of a city simply become too much after a short time and they long for a quiet retreat.
A high level of empathy allows HSPs to sympathize with others and get involved with them – they can easily put themselves in other people’s shoes. On the other hand, this facet can also lead them to ignore their own boundaries or allow these boundaries to be repeatedly ignored by others.
The depth of processing allows HSPs to quickly recognize and deeply understand complex relationships. They think ahead and recognize connections that others often miss. On the other hand, this ability can lead to them being less in the here and now, as they are constantly busy linking things and experiences. HSPs also have a tendency to brood.
Intense emotional perception allows HSPs to feel music, sunsets, small kindnesses, etc. intensely. HSPs are characterized by the fact that they can be deeply touched by such impressions. However, negative feelings, teasing, injustice, etc. also have a much more hurtful effect than would be the case with non-HSPs.
For HSPs, a keen sense of detail means that they perceive nuances that others don’t. They find the missing piece of the puzzle, see little things along the way, sense what is missing. As a result, they process many more impressions at the same time than those who have more filters for their surroundings. It therefore sometimes appears that HSPs are slow. But HSPs are often quick thinkers … but they think, feel and perceive so much simultaneously.
Your Sensitivity – Your Strength
We all differ in our perception. The figures on how many people are highly sensitive vary between 10% and 20% of the population. If you grew up as an HSP in an environment that knew nothing about high sensitivity or did not regard this personality trait as a completely normal ability, then you most likely experienced that your perceptions were not shared by those around you and were probably even denied. “You’re just imagining it.” “You can’t feel anything like that.” “Nonsense, it can’t be itchy at all.” “Pull yourself together.” “Don’t be so sensitive.” These are some of the things that HSPs hear as children and even in adulthood.
No wonder we doubt our abilities and perceptions.
Coaching with me gives you a space in which you can be who you are … with all your facets. We train your confidence in your perception and your self-awareness. We look at what your highly sensitive system (body – mind – soul) needs in order to be in harmony with itself. You will learn to block out, filter and reduce stimuli , to schedule rest periods, and to live your high sensitivity authentically.